Turning the big 3-0!

Sep 1st, 2016 3 Comments


It’s hard to believe I’ve been on this earth for 30 years. I know 30 isn’t the age when you’ve reached peak wisdom but I’d like to think that I’ve learned a few things in my life that I wish I could go back and teach my younger self. Or maybe anyone who just might take the time to read this.

I’ve learned a lot. Some came with my mistakes, some with traveling, some with the loss of friendships…all came at a cost.  But what my younger self didn’t realize is that these losses come with even stronger gains and I am who I am because of this life that I’ve lived.  These are the things that came to mind as I look back…

  1. Family really is everything.  To some this doesn’t necessarily have to be “blood” but those people who are always there for you, your family, closest friends…they are the ones that matter most.  Don’t let life get too busy that you forget to cherish one another.  It happens too easily. On a similar note, make time for your friends.  After highschool and college it takes a lot of effort to maintain friendships on both sides.
  2. Visit your grandparents.  This one strikes home for me more than ever having lost my last living grandparent this year.  I still kick myself for not spending more time visiting her and asking her stories of her life.  It’s a regret that I will carry for a very long time.  Trust me, make the time!
  3. TRAVEL.  Do it often and without worry.  Many people use money as an excuse not to travel.  There are many ways to do it on a budget.  There is nothing more rewarding that visiting a new place, tasting new foods and meeting complete strangers.
  4. Spend time alone.  I really truly believe you will never figure out who you are unless you spend time by yourself.  Go for walks, even travel alone. Don’t let yourself be defined by other people.
  5. If it scares you, try it.  This one I’ve heard a lot over the years and within reason its true.  There’s something very invigorating about being scared shitless.  I still have a few of these things to cross off my list.
  6. Kiss.  ALOT.  It’s one of my favorite feelings.
  7. Eat well and take care of your body but don’t rid yourself the joy of indulging once in a while. Eating good food is such a great part of life.
  8. Don’t settle.
  9. Rid your life of toxic people.  We all have them in our lives, its just a matter of letting them go.
  10. Try not to have regrets, you make choices for a reason.
  11. Trust your gut.  It has always been right, even when I don’t listen.
  12. Unplug.  In todays society everyone is always on and able to get ahold of you through various sources.  It’s ok to disconnect sometimes.  Especially when you are in good company.
  13. Stand up for yourself and don’t take shit.
  14. Apologize when you are wrong, as hard as it may be.
  15. Treat your pets as friends/children.  The love of a loyal pet will fix any bad day.  Nothing else will love you unconditionally like that.
  16. Play in the dirt.  Go for hikes, kayak, take walks, lay out under the stars.  These things should be done regularly.  It’s such a good way to reflect and sort out thoughts.
  17. Have a few crazy nights.  You want some good stories to tell your grandkids one day.
  18. Dance.  Even if you are terrible, who cares, just dance.
  19. Learn how to cook, even if it’s only a few things.
  20. Skinny dip.
  21. Random acts of kindness.  Making someone else’s day better does wonders for you too.
  22. Try not to be cynical. The world has too much hate already.
  23. Have breakfast for dinner.
  24. Learn how to drive a stick shift.
  25. Go to a music festival.
  26. Send thank you notes.  It’s a dying art.
  27. As boring as it sounds floss and drink lots of water. I mean, really do it.
  28. When it comes to love no two people play by the same rules. Sometimes you will get hurt, sometimes you will do the hurting.  It sucks, and will probably happen more than you’d like it to but I promise you will come out stronger and something better will eventually come along.
  29. Live with your choices.  You made them for a reason, stand behind them.
  30. Beware of late night thoughts.  They can be dangerous and manipulating. Start fresh in the morning.
  31. Save for retirement. AS SOON AS YOU START WORKING.
  32. Happiness is what you make it.
  33. Learn not to hold on too tightly. To the good things or the bad.
  34. Moisturize and take care of your skin, and yes as much as I love a good tan wear sunscreen.
  35. Dont waste too much of your time worrying about what other people think. Some people are going to love you and some are going to hate you. The sooner you are able to not give a shit about other peoples opinions of you the happier you will be!
  36. Stay humble and kind, always!14233638_10154477642762769_122247582_o

Photos by my friend the amazing K. Rainer Photography.


  • Karen says:

    Omg it doesn’t recognize emojis but the question marks were supposed to be hearts lol!!!!! Love the advice and the girl giving it 🙂

  • Candi says:

    I love this list!!! Happy birthday!!!

  • Amber says:

    #6 and #13!!!!!! yes!!!! best lessons ever! and that one about grandparents <3 Happy Birthday sweet friend!